Honoring Father and Mother

Being a parent is not always easy, it’s part of life and as much as we try to teach our children, their behavior oftentimes teaches us as well.

Here it is, the first week of December of 2019 and we are all thinking forward to the Christmas Season, family, friends and loved ones and just exactly what this means to us individually, especially as Christians or Followers of Christ Jesus.

This last month, I have had to consider some situations with extended family that have become rather disturbing in the light of media posts made public by these members of my family. Members I might add whom I love exceedingly, just however due to health concerns and such we have to love them at a distance. However, they come from a Christian background and even now still go to church, but the things that come from their writing on social media does make a person wonder about the true state of their heart and especially in the area of unforgiveness. I have always looked to the following Scripture for insight:

“A good man out of the good treasure of his heart brings forth good; and an evil man out of the evil treasure of his heart brings forth evil. For out of the abundance of the heart his mouth speaks.” – Luke 6:45. I have been fond of saying since I do so much writing that from the abundance of the heart, the hand writes or types! You know a person’s love by the things they communicate the most. This is a true, spiritual PRINCIPLE.

All we can do as loved ones and yes, parents, is to instruct, admonish, encourage and try to inspire from the Word of God, the ONLY true foundation a parent or anybody for that matter has! What they do with that information and advice is then between the Lord and themselves, all we can do at times as loved ones, is to pray for them and let the Lord through His Holy Spirit do the real work! We can ALWAYS continue to love and pray and sometimes, the prayers are the only way a willful child (of any age) CAN be loved.

The following is an article I thought was excellent that I found on a favorite site of mine. The link to it is found at the end and they truly encourage sharing! Enjoy, be informed and be Blessed!

This was taken from an article published in Got Questions, a ministry website devoted to answering your questions from a Biblical foundation and perspective.

Question: “What does it mean to honor my father and mother?”

Answer: Honoring your father and mother is being respectful in word and action and having an inward attitude of esteem for their position. The Greek word for honor means “to revere, prize, and value.” Honor is giving respect not only for merit but also for rank. For example, some Americans may disagree with the President’s decisions, but they should still respect his position as leader of their country. Similarly, children of all ages should honor their parents, regardless of whether or not their parents “deserve” honor.

God exhorts us to honor father and mother. He values honoring parents enough to include it in the Ten Commandments (Exodus 20:12) and again in the New Testament: “Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. Honor your father and mother which is the first commandment with a promise, so that it may be well with you, and that you may live long on the earth” (Ephesians 6:1-3). Honoring parents is the only command in Scripture that promises long life as a reward. Those who honor their parents are blessed (Jeremiah 35:18-19). In contrast, those with a “depraved mind” and those who exhibit ungodliness in the last days are characterized by disobedience to parents (Romans 1:30; 2 Timothy 3:2).

Solomon, the wisest man, urged children to respect their parents (Proverbs 1:8; 13:1; 30:17). Although we may no longer be directly under their authority, we cannot outgrow God’s command to honor our parents. Even Jesus, God the Son, submitted Himself to both His earthly parents (Luke 2:51) and His heavenly Father (Matthew 26:39). Following Christ’s example, we should treat our parents the way we would reverentially approach our heavenly Father (Hebrews 12:9; Malachi 1:6).

Obviously, we are commanded to honor our parents, but how? Honor them with both actions and attitudes (Mark 7:6). Honor their unspoken as well as spoken wishes. “A wise son heeds his father’s instruction, but a mocker does not listen to rebuke” (Proverbs 13:1). In Matthew 15:3-9, Jesus reminded the Pharisees of the command of God to honor their father and mother. They were obeying the letter of the law, but they had added their own traditions that essentially overruled it. While they honored their parents in word, their actions proved their real motive. Honor is more than lip service. The word “honor” in this passage is a verb and, as such, demands a right action.

We should seek to honor our parents in much the same way that we strive to bring glory to God in our thoughts, words, and actions. For a young child, obeying parents goes hand in hand with honoring them. That includes listening, heeding, and submitting to their authority. After children mature, the obedience that they learned as children will serve them well in honoring other authorities such as government, police, and employers.

While we are required to honor parents, that doesn’t include imitating ungodly ones (Ezekiel 20:18-19). If a parent ever instructs a child to do something that clearly contradicts God’s commands, that child must obey God rather than his/her parents (Acts 5:29).

Honor begets honor. God will not honor those who will not obey His command to honor their parents. If we desire to please God and be blessed, we should honor our parents. Honoring is not easy, is not always fun, and certainly is not possible in our own strength. But honor is a certain path to our purpose in life glorifying God. “Children, obey your parents in everything, for this pleases the Lord” (Colossians 3:20).

© Copyright 2002-2019 Got Questions Ministries. Used with permission.

About Roland Ledoux

Pastor of Oasis Bible Ministry, an outreach ministry of intercessory prayer, encouragement and exhortation of the Word of God and author of the ministry blog, For The Love of God. I live in Delta, Colorado with my beautiful wife of 49+ years and a beautiful yellow lab whom we affectionately call Bella.
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